EZE NJOKU
12-10-2011, 10:15 AM
Posted on february 2012
“Only those
who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” Robert F
Kennedy
If you find yourself up against the same problems and issues
today which you were facing years ago, it may be the right time
to start looking at things differently. Insanity is defined as doing
the same thing over and over again while expecting different
results.
Being successful is very simple. Just model others who are
successful. Talk like they talk, do what they do, and most
importantly think like they think. Focus on less, but only on that
which is more important to you, whatever that may be.
There are certain areas which are equally important to the well
being of every human when it comes to success and happiness.
These areas are spiritual fulfillment, vibrant physical health,
nurturing relationships, and financial wealth.
There are many reasons why people fail to attain the state
known as success, or even happiness. Below are seven of the
most common reasons in my opinion.
Not Knowing What They Want
The number one reason why people are unsuccessful or unhappy
is because they do not know what they want out of life. You see,
life is a like a blank canvas. It is up to each individual to pick the
colors they wish to paint and draw any picture they please. If a
person does not choose to pick their colors or picture to paint,
they can be certain that someone else who does know what they
want will pick it for them.
When going into any situation, whether it is as simple as a
phone call, or as complex as an entire lifetime, knowing what
you want is essential to getting what you want. It is the
destination which we must have in mind clearly prior to starting
any journey.
Not Doing What They Know
Knowledge and action are worlds apart. Just because you know
that you need to eat healthy and exercise regularly in order to
attain vibrant health does not mean that you will do it.
In my personal opinion, the only reason why people do what
they know is because of an intense desire to gain what they are
after. If there is a strong emotional need to become healthier,
richer, happier, or whatever else, there is nothing in the world
which can stop a human will to achieve these ideals.
Not Associating With The Right People
Simply said, you will eventually become who your friends are.
Either they will become like you, or you like them. It is plain,
yet profoundly true. It is also a fact that your earnings will be
within 20% or so of the average earnings of your five closest
friends. Don’t believe me? Do the rough math in your own head
for your own situation and you are certainly in for a shocker.
The people who we surround ourselves with immensely affect
how we think. We borrow not only their thoughts and
ideologies, but also their manners and habits. Associate yourself
with positive, successful people and you are certain to become
one as well.
Not learning and Educating Further
Tom Hopkins, a Real Estate genius put it this way; “No one
limits your growth but you. If you want to earn more, learn
more.” Further educating yourself in the areas which you deem
important and worthwhile is an absolute necessity to just earning
more but also advancing your life further as a whole.
Want to learn more? Walk into a Borders or Barnes & Noble
and you are certain to find more books on the areas of your
interest that you can possibly read in the next year. There is also
a tremendous amount of free information available of the
Internet on any subject you can think of. Use this information to
learn more and constantly grow yourself.
Doing What Everyone Else Is Doing
If you do what everyone else is doing, you are going to have
what everyone else has. This may not be a bad thing, however if
you are not wanting to settle for what everyone else has, than be
ready to take action differently. Most adults go out and get a
college degree, or not even that, they work different jobs for 30-
40 years, and are dependent upon the government or others to
take care of them in their later years.
If you do not want that for yourself, you have got to get away
from the weekly paycheck trap. It is a total hamster wheel. You
may be working very hard and constantly busy but you will not
be going anywhere in all actuality.
Not Taking Enough Risks
Simply put, the bigger the risk the bigger the reward. If you are
willing to put yourself out there and be vulnerable, you will have
so much more to gain than those who choose to blanket their
lives with “security.” I love what Bob Parsons, founder of
GoDaddy.com has to say about security, “Security is for
cadavers.”
The truth is that real growth occurs when you get and stay out of
your normal comfort zone. You only gain the most when you
push yourself to do things you are uncomfortable doing under
normal circumstances.
Giving Up
Unfortunately most people have been accustomed to giving up
as being okay. If you are running a marathon and your foot start
hurting, society teaches us that it is okay to stop and pull out
because you foot was hurting. The question to ask yourself is;
how can you ever win a race if you don’t finish it?
In reality, the last 20% of your effort typically gives you 80% of
your results. You must keep going until you have accomplished
whatever you set out to do. If you can only learn to get out of
your own way and just keep going, there is nothing that will be
able to stop you.
These seven reasons are what I believe to be the biggest
challenges which stop people in living the life of their dreams
and experience the beauty of all that life has to offer. If we can
learn to overcome these challenges, and constantly push
ourselves to advance further, all of the rewards are ours to gain
and enjoy.
May your journey to your best be filled with success and
happiness.
“Only those
who dare to fail greatly can ever achieve greatly.” Robert F
Kennedy
If you find yourself up against the same problems and issues
today which you were facing years ago, it may be the right time
to start looking at things differently. Insanity is defined as doing
the same thing over and over again while expecting different
results.
Being successful is very simple. Just model others who are
successful. Talk like they talk, do what they do, and most
importantly think like they think. Focus on less, but only on that
which is more important to you, whatever that may be.
There are certain areas which are equally important to the well
being of every human when it comes to success and happiness.
These areas are spiritual fulfillment, vibrant physical health,
nurturing relationships, and financial wealth.
There are many reasons why people fail to attain the state
known as success, or even happiness. Below are seven of the
most common reasons in my opinion.
Not Knowing What They Want
The number one reason why people are unsuccessful or unhappy
is because they do not know what they want out of life. You see,
life is a like a blank canvas. It is up to each individual to pick the
colors they wish to paint and draw any picture they please. If a
person does not choose to pick their colors or picture to paint,
they can be certain that someone else who does know what they
want will pick it for them.
When going into any situation, whether it is as simple as a
phone call, or as complex as an entire lifetime, knowing what
you want is essential to getting what you want. It is the
destination which we must have in mind clearly prior to starting
any journey.
Not Doing What They Know
Knowledge and action are worlds apart. Just because you know
that you need to eat healthy and exercise regularly in order to
attain vibrant health does not mean that you will do it.
In my personal opinion, the only reason why people do what
they know is because of an intense desire to gain what they are
after. If there is a strong emotional need to become healthier,
richer, happier, or whatever else, there is nothing in the world
which can stop a human will to achieve these ideals.
Not Associating With The Right People
Simply said, you will eventually become who your friends are.
Either they will become like you, or you like them. It is plain,
yet profoundly true. It is also a fact that your earnings will be
within 20% or so of the average earnings of your five closest
friends. Don’t believe me? Do the rough math in your own head
for your own situation and you are certainly in for a shocker.
The people who we surround ourselves with immensely affect
how we think. We borrow not only their thoughts and
ideologies, but also their manners and habits. Associate yourself
with positive, successful people and you are certain to become
one as well.
Not learning and Educating Further
Tom Hopkins, a Real Estate genius put it this way; “No one
limits your growth but you. If you want to earn more, learn
more.” Further educating yourself in the areas which you deem
important and worthwhile is an absolute necessity to just earning
more but also advancing your life further as a whole.
Want to learn more? Walk into a Borders or Barnes & Noble
and you are certain to find more books on the areas of your
interest that you can possibly read in the next year. There is also
a tremendous amount of free information available of the
Internet on any subject you can think of. Use this information to
learn more and constantly grow yourself.
Doing What Everyone Else Is Doing
If you do what everyone else is doing, you are going to have
what everyone else has. This may not be a bad thing, however if
you are not wanting to settle for what everyone else has, than be
ready to take action differently. Most adults go out and get a
college degree, or not even that, they work different jobs for 30-
40 years, and are dependent upon the government or others to
take care of them in their later years.
If you do not want that for yourself, you have got to get away
from the weekly paycheck trap. It is a total hamster wheel. You
may be working very hard and constantly busy but you will not
be going anywhere in all actuality.
Not Taking Enough Risks
Simply put, the bigger the risk the bigger the reward. If you are
willing to put yourself out there and be vulnerable, you will have
so much more to gain than those who choose to blanket their
lives with “security.” I love what Bob Parsons, founder of
GoDaddy.com has to say about security, “Security is for
cadavers.”
The truth is that real growth occurs when you get and stay out of
your normal comfort zone. You only gain the most when you
push yourself to do things you are uncomfortable doing under
normal circumstances.
Giving Up
Unfortunately most people have been accustomed to giving up
as being okay. If you are running a marathon and your foot start
hurting, society teaches us that it is okay to stop and pull out
because you foot was hurting. The question to ask yourself is;
how can you ever win a race if you don’t finish it?
In reality, the last 20% of your effort typically gives you 80% of
your results. You must keep going until you have accomplished
whatever you set out to do. If you can only learn to get out of
your own way and just keep going, there is nothing that will be
able to stop you.
These seven reasons are what I believe to be the biggest
challenges which stop people in living the life of their dreams
and experience the beauty of all that life has to offer. If we can
learn to overcome these challenges, and constantly push
ourselves to advance further, all of the rewards are ours to gain
and enjoy.
May your journey to your best be filled with success and
happiness.